Transform Social Anxiety into Confidence and Social Effectiveness - Speak Without Fear Stage Fright & Small Talk Coaching

Speak and Present Yourself Confidently Anywhere
Forge Effective Communication to Create Relationships

Dr. Signe A. Dayhoff
Master Social Effectiveness Coach

Master Social Effectiveness Coaching

Ask Yourself :

    *Are you as socially effective as you want to be?
   *Are you confident meeting strangers?
   *Are you comfortable speaking with others?
   *Are you presenting the image you want?
   *Are your personal and business interactions
     successful in helping you reach your goals?

If you answered "NO," you are NOT alone!

When Hal, an experienced and talented therapist, came to me, he was in the
dumps because of his sinking career, working part-time in a community clinic, and
barely surviving on his savings. In four weeks he had a new résumé, had researched
good prospects, knew how to communicate with them, and professionally present
himself in interviews.

After only 4 months, he was snapped up for the job as leading therapist and spokesperson for a regional chain of weight-loss hypnotherapy centers, making
nearly 6 figures.

Are Your Interpersonal Skills Helping or Hurting You?

Research has shown repeatedly that the #1 cause of personal and professional failure is ineffective interpersonal skills.

No matter what you do or where you do it ...
if you want to reach your goals, you must be smart about people and able to communicate clearly and confidently with them.

Being smart about people, or people skills, is highly associated with self-confidence and success. As your interpersonal skills increase, so does your capacity to interact effectively with others.

In turn, effective interaction increases your social confidence and comfort in social situations. This further increases others' desire to interact positively with you.

What is Being Smart About People?

According to John Mayer and Peter Salovey, originators of the concept, emotional intelligence, being smart about people is the "ability to perceive emotions, to access and generate emotions so as to assist thought, to understand emotions and emotional knowledge, and to reflectively regulate emotions so as to promote emotional and intellectual growth."

In other words, Being Smart About People is

	Being aware of your own emotions
	Being sensitive to and understanding others' emotions
	Managing your emotions and those of others
	Expressing your thoughts and feelings to others effectively
	Asserting your needs appropriately to get what you want

It is also

Asking for and providing constructive feedback

Managing and resolving conflict

Influencing others

Collaborating with others as a team

Shifting gears and changing when necessary.

What Does This Mean for Your Mastering Social Effectiveness?

To master social effectiveness you need to focus on and develop your ability to understand how language—your verbal and nonverbal expression of emotion—influences your mental state and that of others.

You also have to discover and use strategies to reduce your anxiety and create positive thoughts. This, in turn, works to create the effective interpersonal communications and relationships you want.

It means knowing what you can do to create new possibilities for thought and action. It also means

1. Identifying situations you want to handle better and

2. Making the positive changes necessary to do so.

Mastering social effectiveness requires not only cognitive and behavioral strategies but also emotional self-awareness, emotional self-management, and emotional awareness of others.

When I met Sally, new in her solo practice in family law, she was discouraged because nothing she did seemed to get clients as she continued to pay a hefty rent on her office space and equipment. She hadn't a clue about how to get the people to see the benefits of what she offered and how she was different from other local and regional family lawyers. But after a few months of coaching, she was presenting herself in-person and at meetings as one ready and able to help others with their family law problems.

Master Social Effectiveness Coaching is the way to develop your Interpersonal and People Smart Skills.

But What About Fear of Speaking in Public or With Strangers?

As has been demonstrated repeatedly, fear of speaking in front of others is Americans' #1 fear.

Fear of speaking publicly is so strong that it leaves fear of death well behind it in seventh place. Now, that is saying quite a bit about its significance.

Jerry Seinfeld once quipped, "At a funeral most people would rather be in the casket than giving the eulogy." As you know, this applies to making conversations as well.

Over 41% of people have this fear ... and 95% report that they do not want to meet or converse with strangers.

What those with fear of speaking in public typically experience is a racing heart, rapid breathing, sweaty palms, dry mouth, memory loss or a heightened desire to escape. This occurs whenever they anticipate or encounter the speaking situation they fear.

The speaking situation can be formal ... giving a speech or report to a group or individual ... or informal ... meeting new people, networking, and making small talk.

Fear of speaking in public is a form of social anxiety, also known as "performance anxiety." It is based on your fear of being negatively evaluated by others, found inadequate, and being embarrassed and/or rejected as a result.

It is so common that humorist Mark Twain remarked, "There are two types of speakers: those that are nervous and those that are liars."

Master Social Effectiveness Coaching covers speaking fear. You can learn to speak without fear as you polish your interpersonal communication and people skills.

I'm Dr. Signe A. Dayhoff, your Master Social Effectiveness mentor. I can provide you with Individual Coaching and Group Coaching

What Have My Coaching Clients Accomplished?

... A national insurance company executive who had been competing unsuccessfully for a VP position won it because he improved his speaking and interpersonal skills.

... A director of a non-profit began profitably attracting financial supporters in less than 30 days after she discovered how to present and promote herself and her organization.

... A physician who was uncomfortable with making small talk with patients began getting to know them and learn more about their lives for making his diagnoses.

What Does Self-Presentation & Stage Fright Coaching Do?

SPSF Coaching, which is based upon my 27+ years as a coach and having overcome both stage fright and generalized social anxiety disorder, can help you:

	Minimize your physical symptoms
	Eliminate your fearful thoughts, erroneous beliefs, and negative expectations
	Create your conversation confidence
	Increase your control over the situation
	Boost your presentation competence and social effectiveness

What Does Kenneth Petersen Say About Dr. Signe's "Self-Presentation Anxiety Coaching?"
	"Dr. Dayhoff has helped me greatly in my efforts to overcome social anxiety and become more comfortable and capable in social settings. I'd made many attempts in the past to overcome this problem myself, but every effort failed because of my fear and negativity toward social situations. "Signe started by enabling me to get over irrational fear and negative self-talk, then she helped me develop a program to gradually progress from going to small, non-threatening social venues to increasingly more challenging ones. Today I'm dating frequently, and am rarely troubled by fear or anxiety before a date. "I've made more progress in the short time I've worked with her than I did in all the years I tried to handle this on my own." - Kenneth Petersen, Davenport, IA
Why Does Kenneth Recommend Dr. Signe: "Made more progress in short time worked with her."

When do you need a Master Social Effectiveness (MSE) Coach?

You need a ME Coach when you want to

	Achieve ME goals that you might not reach quickly or otherwise attain
	Increase your social and emotional competence and confidence
	Identify and build on your key strengths
	Speak comfortably in giving presentations and in small talk
	Deal with people effectively, productively, and profitably
	Grow and develop your personal and professional relationships
	Become a better team player and assume more leader-like skills and qualities
	Create and take advantage of opportunities.

What does a Master Social Effectiveness Coach do?

As your MSE Coach, I have coached for over 27 years. In addition, I have overcome social anxiety disorder, stage fright, and interpersonal communication insufficiency.
As a result, I am an experienced, knowledgeable personal guide, mentor, advisor, and consultant who

* Listens with caring and compassion
* Aids you in clarifying and articulating what you want
* Keeps you focused
* Acts as a sounding board and partner
* Provides honest feedback, unconditional support, tools, and structure
* Builds and develops your people skills and strengths

But that's not all ... your M SE Coach
* Challenges and stretches you
* Inspires you and champions your endeavors
* Builds your confidence, competence, and capabilities
* Explores your potential
* Helps you make the best use of your strengths & resources to meet your MSE goals
* Guides you in creating and fulfilling your vision
* Celebrates your success.

Note: MSE Coaching is not psychotherapy. It is goal-oriented, practical action. It
focuses on concrete, specific, measurable achievement in the present and future.

What Does Alyssa Madison Say About Dr. Signe's "Self-Presentation Anxiety Coaching?"
	"If you are out to change your personal life for the better, I highly recommend Dr. Signe, the best social effectiveness guru one can find. She has helped me become a new person, a person beaming with full confidence when my self esteem was at one time down in the dumps. I have become more assertive and this has helped me progress in both my career and my personal life. People close to me noticed the “new” me and I couldn’t have done it without Dr. Signe". - Alyssa Madison, Malaysia
Why Does Alyssa Recommend Dr. Signe: "She's the best social effectiveness guru ever."

How does Master Social Effectiveness Coaching work?

MSE Coaching is generally done by telephone and e-mail. Face-to-face is not required. You and I set up a weekly schedule. You call me at a predetermined time for each session.

Each week you will review how the past week has gone and then discuss strategies for the next week as well as the next few months.

I will assign homework and make recommendations so that you can remain focused and on-task. The work is concentrated and intense.

The minimum desirable arrangement for you to achieve your MSE goals is a three-month commitment to coaching, although you can work by the month. The three-month arrangement is to create momentum to help you stay motivated, committed, and work as rapidly as possible on your M SE goal.

Research has shown that concentration and laser focus are key to positive change.

What Does Dr. Dave S. Say About Dr. Signe's "Self-Presentation Anxiety Coaching?"
	"Thank you, Dr. Signe, for assisting me overcome my many decades of social anxiety and for making my life more exciting. As you are aware, I being a physician myself, had access to medications but what was lacking for me was some form of CBT. "With me living in Asia where experts in handling SA are difficult to find, your coaching sessions over the phone was just what I needed. You have helped me increase my self-confidence, my self-esteem and my own awareness. You have also assisted me in removing the extra baggage that I carried from my youth, the anger I had in my consciousness towards my alcoholic father. "Best of all, I know that in case of any further conflicts in my mind, I can still get in touch with you, although I have not needed to do so since our last session quite some time ago." - Dr. Dave S., Asia
Why Does Dr Dave S. Recommend Dr. Signe: "She helped increase confidence, self-esteem, and awareness."

Master Social Effectiveness Coaching Monthly Rates

Length of Session      One Session        Four Sessions/Mo.
     30 minutes              $125                     $400*

Coaching sessions are regularly $125 per 30-minute session. However, when you sign up for a month of four 30-minute sessions (a regular total of $500), you claim a 20%- discounted rate* of $400.

When you sign up for the recommended minimum of three months of four 30-minutes session per month (a regular total of $1,500), you claim a 30%-discounted rate is $1,050.

Time- and appropriateness permitting, additional 30-minute sessions are available for those with three-month arrangements at $75 per session during that 3-month arrangement. Rates are in U.S. dollars and pre-payment is required.

With each M SE Coaching session comes extensive e-mail support. You also receive a complete e-mail summary of each session:

(1) What was discussed
(2) What progress was made that week
(3) How to build on that success, and
(4) Personalized homework assignments to keep building step-by-step.

During your first appointment you will do a comprehensive paper-and-pencil-test assessment of your issues, M SE strengths, experience, and opportunities for potential movement.

Master Social Effectiveness Coaching comes with a 100% Unconditional Money-Back Guarantee!

This means that I will not charge your credit card or deposit your check until after the first appointment. Specifically, if after the first 15 minutes of the first session you do not feel comfortable with MSE Coaching, I will stop the session and either not charge your credit card or return your check.

No problems, no hassles. Absolutely NO risk to you!

I accept checks, money orders, PayPal, and credit cards as payment for MSE Coaching services. Prepayment is required.

What Does Mary P. Say About Dr. Signe's "Self-Presentation Anxiety Coaching?"
	"Signe is a kind and compassionate teacher. She guides with humor, uncommon insight, and a firm inner knowing that empowers you to reach your goals." - Mary P., Colorado Springs
Why Does Mary Recommend Dr. Signe: "She guides with humor and uncommon insight ... ."

Master Social Effectiveness Group Coaching is also available

MSE Group Coaching program is a minimum 8-week program for 6-to-8 individuals who meet once a week by teleconference call for 1 1/2 hours per session. This can be done face-to-face when group will meet within 50 miles of the P-D Coach's location in Placitas, New Mexico.

SE Group Coaching Program has three length programs:

Program Fee Per Person

Basic 8-week $165

Intermediate 16-week $300

Advanced 24-week $450.

Groups can sign up for coaching by individual 8-week increments or they can take advantage of the cost-savings feature of the extended programs and sign up for multiple 8-week increments, depending upon their needs.

Benefits of Master Social Effectiveness Group Coaching

Being part of a coaching group provides you with

	A larger interactive support and problem-solving team
	Benefits from the collective wisdom and experience of the group
	Connection with like-minded, goal-oriented people
	Dynamic, inspiring, motivating, and fun group energy
	Access to coaching services for less.

Master Social Effectiveness Group Coaching comes with a 100% Unconditional Money-Back Guarantee!

This means that I will not charge your credit card or deposit your check until after the first session. Specifically, if after the first 30 minutes of the first group session you do not feel comfortable with MSE Coaching, I will excuse you from the session and the group and either not charge your credit card or return your check.

No problems, no hassles. Absolutely NO risk to you!

I accept checks, money orders, PayPal, and major credit cards as payment for MSE Coaching services. Prepayment is required.

Find Out If Master Social Effectiveness Coaching Is Right For You

If you're like Sally or Hal and want to be more socially and interpersonally confident and competent to get more out of your personal and professional life, contact me, Dr. Signe, your Master Social Effectiveness Coach, to receive your FREE 30-minute phone consultation ($125 value).

I will provide you with an introductory session so you can experience firsthand what M SE Coaching is like. I will help you clarify your issues and goals. At the end of the session I will suggest what steps you might consider next in order to move you closer to achieving your M SE goals, and success.

Then if you think M SE Coaching will work for you, you can sign up for the M SE Coaching Session arrangement that best suits your needs and situation.

What Does Karlene Spivak Say About Dr. Signe's "Self-Presentation Anxiety Coaching?"
	"I highly recommend Dr. Dayhoff as a personal and professional coach. She is particularly gifted in working with those who are shy and/or socially 'phobic'. She’s the person to help you prepare for those big challenges." - Karlene M. Spivak, Ph.D., MBA, Spivak Associates, LLC
Why Does Karlene Recommend Dr. Signe: "She guides people through to achievement."

How Do You Prepare For Your Complimentary Session?

Before your Complimentary Coaching Session it will be helpful for you to take some time to think seriously about

1. What you want to accomplish
2. Why you want to accomplish it
3. What has stood in your way
4. What you have done that has worked for you
5. What you have done that has not worked for you.

Remember: This is a complimentary, no-obligation offer. So give it a try. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.

Contact me, mailto:DrSigne@MasterSocialEffectiveness.com, to arrange for your Complimentary 30-minute Consultation or to register for your MSE Coaching.

Why Choose Dr. Signe as Your Master Social Effectiveness Coach?

As your Master Social Effectiveness and People Skills mentor, I have what you need and want from Master Social Effectiveness Coaching:

* Expertise, experience & caring
* Personalized attention
* Customized individual program
* Productive feedback
* Convenience
* Results

SIGN UP NOW and join the thousands of others who have developed their interpersonal savvy, emotional intelligence & confidence; optimized their communication in personal and work settings; alleviated their performance & evaluation anxiety; and created a more fulfilling life for themselves. YOU OWE IT TO YOURSELF!

ALL information is held in the strictest confidence.

Signe A. Dayhoff, Ph.D., mailto:DrSigne@MasterSocialEffectiveness.com
Phone 505-867-0094.

HOWEVER, if you want to learn how to alleviate only your speaking and small talk fear and would prefer not to work one-on-one with a coach just yet, you can take my "How to Speak Without Fear Small Talk E-Course" which is a comprehensive, 196-page pdf home-study course. You can take the course in the privacy of your own home and work at your own pace, The choice is yours.

Yours in mastering social effectiveness and people skills,

Dr. Signe

Please see About Us for E+ Coach Dr. Signe's biography.

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